"I Never Leave the House, I Don't Need Lashes/Brows"

I hear people say it all the time in casual conversation and especially after any of our past lockdowns with everyone working from home. Now hear me out. Life is all about perspective, so I want to give you mine.

Do you generally feel like a bad ass bitch when you're at home, in your sweats and unwashed hair, eating leftovers from two days ago? Or, do you feel like a bad ass bitch when you are fresh from a lash appointment? Or after your Brazilian? How about when you get new clothes? How do you feel the days following a facial? Are you glowing? Is your skin well on its way to looking flawless? When you look good, you feel good. Simple as that. Nowadays, people are talking more and more about making time for yourself and focusing on self care which includes your mental health.

As a busy mom and business owner, I look forward to my me time. We simply just don't get enough credit for all that we do (without having to be asked, I might add). Especially when my kids were "fresh", I would spend next to nothing on myself. My clothes were all cheap and at least 5+ years old. If at any point I'd come across an item, whether it be clothing or an accessory for myself, I'd always come up with reasons why I didn't need it and what I could use that money for instead. I'd always put myself last. How sad is that? And after time, that really adds up and gets you down. Your family is getting all their wants and needs and you aren't. Sure, you can argue and say its ok. I always did. I always made excuses but over time I felt myself walking on that fine line towards feeling depressed. There I was in my old clothes, trying to find whatever I could to eat in the minutes that my home was calm for the day just feeling like bleh. Did I even shower?

That first lockdown put things into perspective for me. Did it do the same for you? I felt that same moment of clarity that I did coming back from mat leave after my son's heart surgery. At that time, I knew I needed to focus on doing the thing I always knew I wanted to try: lashing. After that first lockdown, I knew I needed to take charge of my business and focus on me again. I wasn't going to let the pandemic swallow me like it did so many others. So here's what I was thinking.... We wear masks everyday still, right? Have you ever been in a situation where you go to the mall and someone waves and you're staring like, who the hell is waving at me?? Yup, its definitely happened to me more than once and sometimes I don't even realize who it is til later and I feel terrible. Well I don't know about you but I have zero interest in wearing makeup especially since we have our warm breath sandwiched in between our skin and our masks. So my solution.. wake up, no make up! I get my lash fills biweekly. I go for tox appointments for my forehead. I get monthly facials which has helped my skin so much. And, I have PMU brows. Did I spend money? Yes. Do I look and feel good? Effing YES! Did I spend some much needed time away from my fam (even though I love them so much)? Damn right. Everything I did/do, helps me everyday because its one less thing I have to do when I get up in the morning. Everything I do, people can see even when I'm wearing a mask so I totally look put together. I'm a much better mother and partner when I take care of myself and when I feel good. You know when you get on a plane and they do the safety demo? They tell you to put your oxygen mask on before helping others. This is the same thing. And if you're working from home, I'm sure you still hop on Zoom calls from time to time so people do still see you. Your family sees you. You see you!

Look good, feel good. Ok?